virgins are not asexual
A beacon of hope congested engorged unrelieved. Fine art photography by Zbigniew Halat
We know she knows we know. And what, if so?
Whatever loud solo 'high C' (so called 'soprano C') could be heard from behind closed bedroom or bathroom door, this is nobody's business and no rude, raunchy, vulgar, obscenic or medico-legally pervert (e.g. incestouous, pedophiliac, ephebophiliac, or voyeric) interventions would be justified. Being indescreete and tactless, and making your own (including a step one, of course) daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece etc. an embarrassed masturbator, reflexly you just push her into the vicious circle of promiscuity and create a new victim of the laddette culture.
The fetishistic attraction to juvenile sexuality in films, and other visual art products, pop music lyrics, literature, mass media, particularly the Internet, schooling systems in some countries, should not be seen only as an obvious sign of perverted obsessions manacing minds of men and women responsible for pornographic creations. Multiple consumers of the "oversexed art" become encouraged by what they learned, and as maniacal predators find themselves in charge of "sexual education" of the most vulnerable young people, who instead of being efficiently protected against grave abuse in the society and first of all in their family, become early in life sluttified and later unable to establish a happy family of their own.
Getting rid of sexual urges by self-stimulating the clitoris in private, prevents loss of virginity before marriage and associated grief.
This applies to the vast majority of females having no problems with their clitorises and who are free of troubles with achieving regular orgasms by clitoral self-stimulation.
Unfortunately, some disabling ailments of the clitoral hood are so prevalent that large numbers of virgin girls and unmarried women never reach satisfactory levels of brain chemicals in spite of repeated efforts to climax during self-stimulation sessions. It would not be worrisome, if they could transform their sexual urges into creativity, increased productivity, happiness, health, confidence and power and wait until marriage to solve problems with lack of orgasmic relief.
Many do not wait. Too often strong sexual urges add to other numerous and serious reasons of loss of virginity. The Freudian myth of vaginal orgasm raises curiosity: "If I cannot reach any clitoral orgasm through solo masturbation, would I climax being penetrated vaginally?' Fatal curiosity punishes itself. Virginity lost but the immobilised clitoral prepuce still appears a major obstacle to orgasming, not rarely for whole woman's life. Pre-marital sexual intercourses bring nothing but more problems. Foolish curiosity can kill virginity.
As pernas dobro cruzadas ou espalhadas: seja prudente em sua decisão.
The legs double crossed or spread: be prudent in your decision.
It has been said (by whom first?) that 'men look for sex and find love, women look for love and find sex', so the never-ending quest for orgasm in promiscuous sexual relations apparently violates the female nature and might be regarded as just another paradox of the diverted human sexuality, something like using condoms or any other barrier during contacts defined as DIRECT [Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, CDC, Atlanta, Georgia, USA: "Not having (abstaining from) sex is the most effective way to avoid HIV. If you choose to have vaginal sex, use a latex condom to help protect both you and your partner from HIV and other STDs. Studies have shown that latex condoms are very effective, though not perfect, in preventing HIV transmission when used correctly and consistently. If either partner is allergic to latex, plastic (polyurethane) condoms for either the male or female can be used. If you choose to have oral sex, and your partner is female, use a latex barrier (such as a natural rubber latex sheet, a dental dam or a cut-open condom that makes a square) between your mouth and the vagina. A latex barrier such as a dental dam reduces the risk of blood or vaginal fluids entering your mouth. Plastic food wrap also can be used as a barrier. If you choose to perform oral sex with either a male or female partner and this sex includes oral contact with your partners anus (analingus or rimming), use a latex barrier (such as a natural rubber latex sheet, a dental dam or a cut-open condom that makes a square) between your mouth and the anus. Plastic food wrap also can be used as a barrier".]
Instead of looking desperately for a casual orgasm provider, usually a promiscuous sexual predator harbouring and widely spreading many sexually transmitted infections, it is much wiser and safer to work out the initial and per se minimal climaxing mechanisms on one's own, at let them bloom in coming not too late mutually faithful marriage forever.
Such a sensible life strategy hardly can be achieved by all young people. Rather most privileged are capable to remain PRUDENT virgins until marriage. Professional proactive prosperity promotion by proper property protection requires full openness and responsibility of communication on different platforms: in the family, community, nation and globally.
Prudery feeds raunchiness. This is why prudery kills.
Prudence saves lives. Prudence not raunchiness must set limits for prudery.