Control of Sexuality, Page 3
Both holistic (God is unconditional love, God loves those who obey Him) and reductionist (erotic ways of achieving satisfactory level of brain chemicals) visions of sexuality deal with attractiveness of the loved and/or desired entity according to the judgement of the loving and/or desiring entity.s
The highest level of human sexuality display those who are Godlike and find all God's creature enough attractive to be loved and not sexually desired in the same time. Examples are St Francis of Assisi and Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta, and uncounted number of holy men and women, known and unknown.
Close to the highest level of human sexuality display those who love (but do not desire sexually) their family members other than spouses, their friends, patients, students, co-religionists, compatriots and the like entities bearing an asset enough attractive to be loved according to the judgement of the loving entity.
The normal level of human sexuality displays the enitity who within the frames of integrated love and desire offers his/her virginity to his/her spouse and cultivates mutually satisfying multifacet husband - wife everlasting and fruitful sexuality. Preserving one's integrity within the wedlock rarely is possible and needed because in addition to becoming one flesh which means physical integration, the husband and wife integrate morally and psychologically to establish the optimal environment to develop their family sound, free from diseases and social pathologies.
Emotional and physical aspects of sexuality are interrelated and mutually potentiating and by definition involve other persons who willingly or unwillingly become subjects or objects of someone else's quest for union bearing satisfaction.
The lower the level of sexuality, the less love and the more lust in it. Sexual predators pretend love notoriously, in some cases even fall in love, but as a rule concentrate on erotic ways of achieving satisfactory level of brain chemicals. For this they dehumanize their victims from whom they want nothing but flesh.
The genuine respect for moral, psychological, and physical integrity of each human person is not existent in lower levels of human sexuality. The victims of oversexed predators often become trasformed into next generation of sexual predators, for whom their partners become nothing better than human sex toys to be disposed after use.
The lowest level of human sexuality is love-free degenerated lust of paedophiles and ephebophiles raping their own children or commiting any other incestuous acts against own or other people's children.
sexuality definition - love - desire - lust - attractiveness
Sexuality is a quest for satisfying union of complementary entities.
"Dear sisters and brothers, I warmly greet you. I thank Cardinal Muller for his words with which he introduced our meeting. I would like to begin by sharing with you a reflection on the title of your colloquium. “Complementarity”: it is a precious word, with multiple meanings. It can refers to situations where one of two things adds to, completes, or fulfills a lack in the other. But complementarity is much more than that. Christians find its deepest meaning in the first Letter to the Corinthians where Saint Paul tells us that the Spirit has endowed each of us with different gifts so that-just as the human body's members work together for the good of the whole-everyone's gifts can work together for the benefit of each (cf. 1 Cor. 12). To reflect upon "complementarity" is nothing less than to ponder the dynamic harmonies at the heart of all Creation. This is the key word, harmony. All complementarities were made by our Creator, because the Holy Spirit, who is the Author of harmony, achieves this harmony.
It is fitting that you have gathered here in this international colloquium to explore the complementarity of man and woman. This complementarity is at the root of marriage and family, which is the first school where we learn to appreciate our own and others' gifts, and where we begin to acquire the arts of living together. For most of us, the family provides the principal place where we can begin to “breathe” values and ideals, as well to realize our full capacity for virtue and charity. At the same time, as we know, families are places of tensions: between egoism and altruism, reason and passion, immediate desires and long-range goals. But families also provide frameworks for resolving such tensions. This is important. When we speak of complementarity between man and woman in this context, let us not confuse that term with the simplistic idea that all the roles and relations of the two sexes are fixed in a single, static pattern. Complementarity will take many forms as each man and woman brings his or her distinctive contributions to their marriage and to the formation of their children -- his or her personal richness, personal charisma. Complementarity becomes a great wealth. It is not just a good thing but it is also beautiful." (full text)