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Progressive versus regressive
Forward versus backward
New man versus old man
Control of Sexuality
The importance of virginity before marriage:
There is a large time gap between puberty and maturity. Immature virgins easily fall prey to sexual predators. As a result, devirginized victims of sex obsessed maniacs and/or of their own foolish curiosity no longer can offer their virginity to future spouses.
Instead, they bring into their new family's marital life the following disadvantages:
- lack of virginal shame which is an effective barrier against sexual exploitation,
- worn out sexual intimacy which is man's and woman's personal property and should be shared exclusively within their marriage, inasmuch as the more intimacy a married couple has to share exclusively between themselves, the more special and unique the sexual relationship in that marriage becomes, (all legal, economic benefits of marriage are based on conjugal sexual exclusiveness, encompassing respect for the most fundamental and uniquely human right from the start which is a personal property right that can be found in nakedness by those who gained knowledge of good and evil: Genesis 3:7. , therefore nudity which is one's personal property should be shared within one's marriage exclusively because marital property exists to protect spousal rights.)
- sex maniacs' sexual footprints imprinting virgin minds,
- impaired concupiscense which should be "remedied" by marriage only,
- own returning memories which can be mirrored vividly by ex-lovers, even forgotten ones,
- indisputable evidence of the past behaviour in the form of pornograhic data and records obtained from digital media (text, photo, video, audio) and Internet usage
- unwanted sexual experiences and/or comparisons, unacceptable for a spouse
- sexually transmitted infections (STIs), usually asymptomatic but still contagious and sooner or later showing signs and symptoms of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) also know as venereal diseases.
Sexually Transmitted Disease Prevention
according to mainstream science of medical epidemiology
Non-virginal marriages much more often than virginal ones
become overburdened with problems of retrospective jealousy, infidelity,
and well as with physical and psychological sequelae of venereal diseases,
including inferiltity, cancer, mother-to-child transmitted diseases
passed before, during and after birth.
Such adversities fuel numerous social pathologies
and marriages affected by them are more likely to be dissolved.
This undermines prosperity of the victims' old and new families.
Children, parents, grandchildren, grandparents, and members of extended family,
all those who have some expectations and hopes concerning
good fruits of their relatives' marital stability,
all of them become badly harmed by
an act of illicit devirginization far back in the past.
This is why normal societies set rules on preserving virginity until marriage.
Differences between males and females rooted in their anatomy and physiology
should be blamed for the backward and oppressive misconception that
'only women should be virgins until married'.
The culture of life and love that makes globalization genuinely progressive
takes a stand on equal rights for women,
sets a high standard for ethics and integrity,
and makes it clear that
'men and women should be virgins until married',
rejects gender inequality and any ot its manifestations,
particularly such outrageous like clitoridectomy and infibulation:
Where female virginity at marriage is considered vitally important, even rumors that question a girl's morality may be sufficient to harm a family's honor and effectiveness in a community and bar her from marriage. In this context, clitoridectomy and infibulation serve a clear and compelling purpose: they guarantee virginity, morality, marriage- ability and the hope of old age security, all in one decisive action taken when she is too young to object. Any girl known to have been properly circumcised in the pharaonic manner can be assumed to be a virgin and marriageable, since there are usually a number of older women to bear witness to the thoroughness of the infibulation. People can therefore assume that there is both an attenuation of the girl's sexuality (because of the clitoridectomy) and a barrier to penetration (because of the infibulation), so even if she had had the opportunity, they can assume she will not have engaged in premarital sex. But for a girl who has not been properly infibulated, as in the case in which her parents might have chosen to follow contemporary ideas about having only a milder form such as sunna circumcision, doubts can be raised about her virginity and her morality leaving her vulnerable to being passed over in marriage. Ellen Gruenbaum, The female circumcisión controversy: an anthropological perspective, 2001